Giving a compliment.

The risk in giving a compliment face-to-face is of course that the recipient will assume you are indulging in shameless pandering to achieve your own greedy goals.

It's a sad reality about compliments. If you lay a big one out on your boss, your friend, or your sweetie, the recipient will probably think you’re brown nosing. So what is the solution? Hold back your sincere esteem?

Do It Behind Their Back.

Instead of telling someone directly, tell someone who is close to the person you wish to compliment. For instance, suppose you want to be in the good graces of Gunjan. Don’t directly compliment Gunjan. Go to her close associate, say Poorva, and say “You know, Gunjan is a very dynamic woman. She gives a damn when no one else bothers about you. She is different, she is special”. Now I place ten to one odds, your comment will get back to Gunjan within 24 hours. Though exceptions are there, if it is a guy chances are there that your comment would take some more time. As they are more bothered about things which really matter. Well, it’s my view anyway.

A compliment one hears is never as exciting as the one he overhears. A priceless way to praise someone is not to chase for the moment to shoot a compliment, not by telephone, not by pinging them, not by scripting a long poem but by telling a mutual friend. This way you escape possible suspicion that you are a bootlicking, egg sucking, back-scratching creep trying to win the golden points. You also leave the recipients with the happy fantasy that you are telling the whole world about their greatness

These are my views anyway :) Comments are appreciated to make it an engaging one.

Much Love
-Sri