Happy souls live lonely lives.

What is being lonely? Is it being alone in a room? Or is it just being alone? If this is so, then why people feel so lonely even when they are surrounded by people. Loneliness is a mindset, something in your mind, which you have to let go. The hard part is letting it go, you cannot easily do it. At first, loneliness will seem like a nasty thing, it will make you drown in emotions and pull you down to your knees.  You won’t have enough courage to get back up. So you stay, be patient and wait till it is over and one fine day everything seems to be alright. But, trust me; once you’ve learned to live alone, it is like a drug. You won’t ever wish to be with people. You would love to be alone. Do your own thing, live your own life. Bonus, there is no one to judge you too. This is the reason why happy souls live lonely lives. 

Why people will love you?

One of the simplest ironies of life is that you will always try to impress people around you in some or the other way. You will always want people to love you and for that you will do things that you haven’t planned to do in first place.
Be it the quotes or be it someone telling you to not live to impress other people but you will always do that. I know some people who live with the ideology that they are not on this planet to impress other people but they still flatter, and give false compliments to people just so that they could be in the good books of people, so that they can be loved. They jump around on their socials posting things which aren’t obvious and are just there to manipulate about how they are.
I personally feel these are all the secondary ways and aren’t real in any way to get people to like you or to love you.

Then what really is the thing by which people get attracted to you? Or seem to like you more than the others.

Work, yes work is the thing which defines you. What do you work on? Do you play a game professionally? Or you are a Youtuber? Or you do research about things? It doesn’t matter,  what matters is if you work on something or not. This is the thing which gains respect in people for you, what you work on. It can be any work, even if it is as small as sketching things it means something to people around you. In anything in which you put efforts from your heart is work, everything else is secondary.

I play Badminton. I have many friends and every 4 out of 5 friends of mine are somehow connected to Badminton. Well, what does that mean? For me it simply means that playing Badminton has helped me make an image, which has helped me getting more friends because I am being recognized now.
So, basically what I think is, work is everything for you. You have to work, work on some or the other thing for better a life.

So work people. Work on something. Don’t just sit idle.  Although sometimes it’s okay to sit idle but not all the time.

The friendship that begins in school leaves a very deep impact on almost each and every one of us. The time you spend with them, all the fun, all the pranks, all the jokes will always be one of our best memories.  The more new friends you make, the more you start missing the old ones. I have always had great friends in my school time but a number of them have always been special to me and will always be in future.  One of them is Danish.

Danish is the first genuine friend I had in Mumbai. We met in 7^th standard and after that we have been very good friends till now. Now Danish is someone who came with a blaze and was very much popular almost among everyone, be it the teachers, students of our class, students of the other class and of course girls too,(he will never accept this)  all of this because he was very good in studies.  We used to sit together for some some months when he first came. I always used to ask him “How are you so good at studies man? “and in reply he would say “Bhai , I never was good in studies right from the beginning. I used to get poor grades in my primary classes. I have started studying now only, so don’t think I am scholar material” to which I would laugh and say “Yes, yes. I know”.

A very talented individual, he was equally good in sports as he was in studies . He was very short tempered at times, his anger was something which cannot be faced by anyone, although now he has gained control over it and is completely fine.  When he was made the monitor of our class not a single one of us used to mess with his decisions, and if we did, we all knew the outcome.  Although we never had long phone calls, shared secrets, talked shit, we pretty much know each other very well.

Danish, you’ve been a very special friend of mine and will continue to be. Thank you for helping me out when I needed you ,thank you for sharing the two Parathas with me, thank you for giving me your notebooks to complete mine on time, thank you for letting me sleep in the Hindi period,  and finally Danish, thank you for being such an awesome friend.  Thank you for being there in my life.

             "Danish is a part of my life"   

Why it is difficult to date an Indian girl in general.

I am an Indian girl studying in a college . Let me begin by saying that I am "very easy to date". I socialize, interact with people, have loads of male friends, make the first move and have dated many guys. And I have broken up with guys and guys have broken up with me too. I move on and am honest about everything I do and feel. Neither do I get dependent on the person I am with nor do I cry and crib if they leave.

I study in a college which treated me well initially. I was popular. People liked me, asked me out, became friends with me. It did not make me uncomfortable. I was just fine with it. I never restrained myself. I did not shun anyone rudely. I did not refrain from being comfortable with guys. I did not hide my relationships. 
And then things changed. I was labelled a whore, by girls and boys alike. Because, I "dated". 

People used to call me a slut because I used to accept their friend requests on Facebook without being good friends with them. Incidentally, Facebook is a "social network" that is meant for connecting better with people. But apparently only a girl with a loose character can add people from her own college!! And of course, if a girl who is your batchmate, with whom you have 60 mutual friends has added you, it means "Come have sex with me." In no way does she mean that she trusts your maturity and finds it worth staying in touch with the so called ignited minds of the country!

I thought that like the popularity, the infamy would not affect me either. But it did. I used to cry. I decided to withdraw. Guys who asked me out went on to tell their and my (girl)friends to not stay in my company because that would ruin their image, and those "friends" took that advice. It's ironic that the very people I politely said no to started saying that I would sleep with anyone. At a point of time, I actually started doubting my own dignity. Had I really compromised it? I stopped interacting with people. I am not on Facebook. And I no more feel like going out with anyone. Because I am tired of getting disappointed (from the reaction it generates from those around me). I am not open to dating anymore.

I realized that I had probably been wrong. Not because of my actions or lifestyle. But because of expecting more from the people around me, than they are prepared to deliver.

I have started mass-rejecting requests for friendships, hiding things from people, "katao"ing (shunning) anyone who talks to me without having a solid work-related reason. Like my respected friends, I say that I never drink or smoke even though we girls do have in-hostel parties. Needless to say, I never masturbate (only guys are allowed to do that). I maintain that I hate casual encounters and everyone who has them. I use the phrase complicated/confusing/different friendships instead of flings. I now help us women fulfill the roles defined for us by others. I in fact, strengthen those expectations. Only if you keep the benchmark high, will you achieve good quality objects right? I help our society move towards creating perfect girls i.e. virgin teetotalers who believe in finding eternal love in one or maximum two tries . Either by falling in love with the first person they kiss, or by gradually falling in love in an arranged marriage. Yaay! Cheers to sanctity!

Our society is simply not ready for things like dating. It boasts of being modern. It is not. It judges, labels, concludes. Things like dating, sex and girls like me send a shiver down the spine of this society, which ironically, has proven to be spineless. It squirms at the thought of accepting sexuality.

I live in an environment where my dignity is thought to be less than the dignity of the girls who are not comfortable around guys. Those girls are said to be delicate, shy, pious and they deserve respect. Maybe they are. It is their way of life and it is perfectly fine. But my way of life, which is harmless but different, is blasphemy. My dignity can be compromised. People think it is okay if I am eve-teased, because I should be ready to take it. They think it is just okay to disrespect me. Because that is what I command. They confuse "easy to date" with "easy to rape". 

I do not blame them. This is how we are. Our stability gets disturbed when we move towards unconventional ways. It will take years for us to change. Maybe we never will. 
So the answer to your question lies in re-framing it. It is not difficult to date an Indian "girl". It is difficult to date a girl in "India".

India

We have the best malls now,
With the best brands lined up wonderfully inside
And copies of the same brand are available,
At throw away prices at the adjacent roadside

To see how the poor and wealthy co-exist,
Imagine when we drive in an air-conditioned car
It is not at all strange to witness outside,
Beggars and slum dwellers barefoot on burning tar

Still if they beg for money or try to sell some toys,
Standing outside in weather as hot as a furnace
Why do we sitting inside the AC cooled car,
Get red hot angry and treat them like they are from outer space

“Ganga jaisi pavitra” has been used many a times in Indian cinema,
As Ganga is worshipped as a symbol of purity
Yet 2 million daily holy bathes and tons of industrial waste,
Make it one of the most polluted rivers in the country

Mumbai is the financial and entertainment capital of India,
Yet it continues to have pathetic infrastructure!
It is one of the most populous cities in the world,
But 60% of them living in slums doesn’t make for a good picture

We have our very own moral protectors of the society,
How they suddenly appear on Valentines Day is pure magic
Isn’t it strange that even after 60 years of independence,
It is OK to Piss in public but not to Kiss in public

We Boys

I published a poem describing about the teen age girls. Now, I've one for the boys, though this is not a poem, a write up and some points you can say. Comments are appreciate ( I know hardly anyone comments ._.)

Take a walk in the house with a Toothbrush 

Read the text carefully on the shampoo

bottle in the shower, as if it has something to do with.

Laugh at our jokes when we

haven't even shared it with others yet.

Hate it when the wind messes up our hair.

Have to call our own phones to find it.

.Check the time on our phones when we are wearing a watch.

Turning our pillow around so we could sleep on the cold side.

When we stay up late we count how many hours of sleep we will get. 

To start, when I saw her first. I saw her 5 years back, I'm not sure if she knew me or even noticed me at that time. As she was the "ShowStopper" of our class. The only valid reason which I find,  which gave her the title was because she was from a convent school. 

So she was the highness and got tons and tons of attention every week, every day, every minute and I don't know if every second too. 

Meanwhile,

Siddharth: I know her, she is a very good friend of mine. I scraped her on Orkut last night and she replied to it. 

We (Me, Satyam and Gaurav): *-* *-* How you do this? 

So Siddharth was the only guy who every time got the chance to talk to her and we rather enjoyed watching them talk, as it was the only option we were left with. 

After a year or so things got better and we started to interact. Things got much better and we became friends. 

All of a sudden there was a slight misconception or misunderstanding which resulted so much pain and sadness, but by the time we were appearing for our board exams we sorted out everything and we lived happily ever after :P 

I've figured out things which I don't know if it is perfect and to the point, but it is what I particularly feel about her. 

The thing that I like about her the most is, she is least bothered about what people say or think about her. She is more concerned about things which really matter. Surprisingly, till now I haven't heard anyone saying something bad about Gunjan.  

She is beautiful, cute and loves to be pampered. She is mature enough to suffocate you with advices and scold you like a mother. 

It has been a long time now, there are few flaws that I figured out, but then everyone has their own flaws and that is totally okay. I find her perfect. 

Gunjan, I'm shy when it comes to appreciate anyone on their face so I rather choose to do this in a virtual way.  Now that you know me, I assume you know such things well and can hold on to it. Thank you for being there in my life :) 

                                  (Don't come to a conclusion, that this is all what I feel. You're much more awesome. I wanted to keep this simple and want people to read this)

                                        "Gunjan is a part of my life"